selectiveavant-garde: This hits home.  A few weeks ago, I was intimate with someone.  We were on my bed and I had actively taken both mine and her clothes off.  However, when it came down to it, and as she was about to go down, she stopped to ask me if I was okay with continuing.   This is the exchange that followed:Me:  Do you not want to?Her:  Of course I want to… I’m asking if you want to.Me:  ….I… don’t know.She immediately climbed up to meet my eyes with hers and just held me.  I really really really appreciated it.Moral of the story:  Just because someone is an active participant, doesn’t mean they can’t retract their consent at any point.  As well, I don’t know or I’m not sure means no. 

selectiveavant-garde:

This hits home.  A few weeks ago, I was intimate with someone.  We were on my bed and I had actively taken both mine and her clothes off.  However, when it came down to it, and as she was about to go down, she stopped to ask me if I was okay with continuing.  


This is the exchange that followed:
Me:  Do you not want to?
Her:  Of course I want to… I’m asking if you want to.
Me:  ….I… don’t know.
She immediately climbed up to meet my eyes with hers and just held me.  I really really really appreciated it.

Moral of the story:  Just because someone is an active participant, doesn’t mean they can’t retract their consent at any point.  As well, I don’t know or I’m not sure means no. 

(Source: single-bodiedmilitia)

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